Is it possible to achieve an ideal?
I started this blog as a way to explore my own purpose. I believe doing so will lead to fulfillment in my life.
So, I chase this ideal.
But what is fulfillment? What does it actually look like? Can it actually be attained?
I’d argue an ideal is as elusive as a snow leopard as long as you see it as an ideal.
Ideals can be instrumental in helping us navigate towards a specific direction. They are a theoretical apex or peak we strive to achieve.
Ideals provide us with an example of what perfect looks like.
But perfection is an impossible achievement.
For high-achievers, like myself, perfection has been the siren song that’s lured me to the treacherous waters of self-doubt and fear.
Ideals on their own can lead to stark-raving madness.
But, framed properly, ideals can be the canvas of a purpose-driven life. Ideals need boundaries, constraints, clearly defined expectations and outcomes.
In other words, you need to make the ideal achievable.
Until you see it as a thing that can be attained, you’ll never attain it.
DOES IT STILL SERVE ITS PURPOSE
Fulfillment is an interesting ideal to chase as a high-achiever. It’s the complete antithesis of my raison d’etre.
You cannot achieve ad infinitum and be fulfilled.
To be fulfilled, would indicate I have reached a state of equilibrium, I am in balance. By its definition, there is no desire or need for more.
Achievement has been a definitive super-power during my career, as I imagine it is for other high-achievers.
I’d not be where I am today without it.
But recently, I’ve realized that if I intend to achieve fulfillment, it may require me to shed my old ways of thinking.
I’ve had to examine my bias towards achievement. To ask if it still serves me the way it once did. Does it still deserve a seat at my table?
This line of questioning helped me redefine my desire for high-achievement to be one of purpose-driven achievement.
This reframe makes it possible to achieve the ideal because the boundaries, constraints and expectations that inform my purpose also now inform the ideal.
The act of living in accordance to my purpose allows me to live a fulfilled life.
The unattainable now presents itself as attainable.
What ideal are you chasing?
How could defining it and reframing it into something attainable make it work for you?