I was out for a walk recently with my daughters.
We went to one of my favorite trail systems in Des Moines. This trail follows a winding stream and is nestled in the woods. It’s a tranquil place surrounded by nature.
Isla, my oldest, has recently developed a fear of crossing bridges, especially pedestrian ones that go over bodies of water.
She literally gets hysterical when she comes upon a bridge and becomes an immovable object (quite impressive for her tiny stature). So, I have to carry her over them.
That day on the walk was no different.
We came upon our first treacherous bridge.
I had Isla hop on my back as I picked up her scooter in one hand. I pushed the stroller with Maya, my youngest, in the other hand. And I hung tight to the dog leash, hoping our dog would cooperate.
We traverse the bridge as if it’s a rickety rope bridge suspended hundreds of feet in the air over a jungle gorge with raging rapids and a cadre of alligator’s patiently waiting for a misstep.
I like to imagine I looked like an absolute strong bad-ass doing this, but in reality probably looked more like drunk performing circus bear on a unicycle.
We make it to the end of the first bridge, without much fanfare, and carry on.
Isla is back zipping on her scooter down the trail.
We make it to a second bridge and I am preparing to resume the position.
But, Isla stops.
She looks at me and says “I think I want to cross this myself, Papi.”
And she does.
And she does it with all the other bridges that came after it that morning.
Just like that, her fear was gone.
And it hit me.
Sometimes, the bridge you don’t cross (because of fear or doubt), becomes the LAST bridge you don’t cross.
The quickest way to overcome the fear is to face it.
We all have bridges we’re too afraid to cross.
For me it was writing and sharing it with the world. This blog is my way of overcoming that.
It’s still scary, but the fear hasn’t materialized the way I imagined it would. It’s never as bad as our mind thinks it will be.
WHAT’S YOUR BRIDGE?
What are the bridges in your life? What would it mean if you could cross that bridge today? Right now?
Why don’t you? What’s holding you back?