If you focus on what you have, you gain what you lack. And if you focus on what you lack, you lose what you have.Effortless by Greg McKeown
I think a lot about time.
How little of it we all have.
How we are at the mercy of fate, happenstance, chance or whatever other word you want to use to describe how little we control. Tomorrow holds within it the mystery of unknown or unlimited possibilities. We could face death or we could face another day of the same existence.
How do we bear the level of anguish that such an uncertain existence burdens us with?
If we calibrate our bearings on what we lack, how can we expect to find solid footing?
How do we remain grounded?
The things we lack are infinite. With our mind fixated upon all we lack, we are almost certain to enter into a spinning free fall, unable to distinguish between up and down. We lose ourselves to the pursuit of more – a bucket that will never be filled. And yet, we continue to fill it, remaining ignorant to the hole at the bottom of it.
This is the very definition of setting ourselves up for failure.
A focus on what we lack is a coping mechanism for fear – the fear we are not enough, fear we’ve never been enough or fear we’ll never be enough.
Perfectionism and high-achievement are both born out of a belief that we must pursue what we lack. They narrow our focus and provide us with a myopic view of what we think matters. They are a symptom of a culture that tells us we are not enough and sells us on what we need to fill that gap for just four easy payments of $99.00.
Irv Blitzer, John Candy’s character in Cool Runnings, sums it up best:
"A Gold medal is a wonderful thing, but if you're not enough without it, you'll never be enough with it."
This is the true lesson of life.
We must find a way to ignore the incessant beat of the drum for more and focus on what we have.
What if everything is as it should be?
Gratitude is the antidote for living in the present.
This is no promise we’ll see tomorrow. We might as well appreciate what we have to unlock the true beauty and impermanence of life.
Maybe then we’ll realize we lack nothing and have everything we need.